Sex and security
It echoes in my brain…
pulses through my veins…
um anyway. Hello how are you, thanks for tuning in. Hope you didn’t get your hopes up with the title and all. Nothing juicy.
Security first. I’ve recently had a mild online-paranoia phase again, what with all the phishing & databases being hacked etc. So I decided to finally have safer passwords. Well, I’ve had safe passwords for a while, but I’ve tended to re-use the same ones again and again.
So I am proud to say each of my “high risk” logins (eBay, Amazon, blog, email etc) now has its very own password. And I’ve found a really fucking cool system that allows me to work them out even if I don’t know them by heart, and to easily change them from time to time, but that is absolutely impossible to guess/hack. Yay!
Oh yes, speaking of guess/hack. According to my stats my father hasn’t been here (with his normal IP) since I moved/blocked etc. Which means either he interpreted clarissaweb.co.uk as “site gone for good”, or he suspected stuff and started using a proxy right away. Not sure which I prefer. :)) But I guess there is little for him to see here anyway.
Did I say sex? Oh yes. Vega drew my attention to something called “objectumsexuality” (or “objectophilia”) the other night – there isn’t really much online about it. From a (very dead) LJ community about it: Objectum-sexuality is simply to be emotionally and sexually attracted to OBJECTS, i.e. kitchen appliances, furniture, PC parts, anything that’s not human and is an inanimate object. I love being able to put labels on things. So I’m an asexual objectophiliac! 😀
Actually some of the stuff you find is rather more extreme – like some woman who apparently was in love with a ferry. But there are different degrees to pretty much everything. I still maintain I’m mainly an aesthete – I like pretty things and pretty people. A sexy car pleases me because it is nice to look at (much like a layout such as this one). But I’ll admit that my attachment to things is probably out of the norm.
Asexuality is also out of the norm. This came up again on Michelle’s blog yesterday – as a result of an article at SpOn (German, about young people who choose not to have sex) that I didn’t bother reading cuz I generally find the topic boring. Maybe I’m making a mistake. Maybe I should care more.
I remember when I first found out there was an “asexuality movement” I was rather excited. Wow, the people concerned were finally speaking up, and even getting media attention. Soon enough the general public would accept this sexual preference (or lack thereof) too. The LGBT movement had done the hard work after all, people nowadays were open-minded. It would be a breeze, and I would profit from it too.
So I lost interest. I’ve never been the militant kind. Maybe that’s lazy. But I do notice that I still get annoyed when confronted with the standard misconceptions. And they’re always the same, and not really that open-minded at all.
Ok I’mma sign out now. Ah yes, so apparently cookies don’t work, and this sucks. I’ve turned off “name & email required” to make it easier to comment, but please do make sure you put your name. I’m not yet ready to let go of this beautiful theme, and I am too stupid to fix it. Goodnight.
Ah well, to be honest, I’m also too lazy to be open-minded and politically correct all the time. I’ve tried it and fucked it up repeatedly anyway, so why bother?
But I think what really matters is that you do not care about another person’s decisions and life more than it’s considered healthy. Why would I care about a person’s sexual preferences when I don’t want to have sex with them anyway? That is the only thing I regularly don’t understand.
But I like discussing things anyway. At the end of the day I just don’t really care.
I hate that too, the same misconceptions you get time and time again, they’re so fucking boring. The other day when I said I didn’t want a boyfriend I was told I “just need to get done” and everything would be better. Course. The one thing missing in my life IS after all, a penis. Why did I never think of this before?
People are ignorant, that’s all there is to it. And unoriginal. Fuck them. Part of me takes pleasure in the fact that they’re too thick to understand anything other than the norm, as it really does mean I’m better than them. In every conceivable way.
PS. The fields on this comment bit are really hard to read as so dark grey, I have to peer into the screen to see where Name goes. Plus, it doesn’t remember it 🙁 And when you just hit Tab after commenting, it goes back up to the top of the page.
Um, yes I know it doesn’t remember it, that’s why I said cookies don’t work & I’ve disabled “email required”.
I don’t find the fields hard to make out at all tho. Maybe I’ll change the background, if I can be bothered. And ah yes, fascinating @ tab. Oh well. Use your mouse. 😐
what really matters is that you do not care about another person’s decisions and life more than it’s considered healthy
Says the person who wrote a long paragraph about each of those young people from SpOn. 😛
Says the person that added:
But I like discussing things anyway. At the end of the day I just don’t really care.
Forgot to add something:
Of course, you can say – I do not want to have sex.
Even without having had sex.
But you can’t say – I don’t get anything out of having sex.
Because for saying that you need to know what it is like at all.
Just like I can say – I do not want to bungee-jump.
That is a simple decision.
But I can’t say – I don’t get anything out of bungee jumping.
When I’ve never tried it. Maybe when I try to do it it’s gonna be total fun and I’ll never stop again. Who knows?
That one girl you’re protecting said she doesn’t get anything out of having sex, and she’s never had sex. That is not a simple decision, but it is a judgment on something she knows nothing about.
Discussing semantics is kinda silly. So just because she used the expression “Sex gibt mir nichts” instead of, I dunno, “Sex reizt mich nicht”, she’s a “fake” asexual?
I will fight for my (and her) right to have an opinion on something I have not tried. 😐 Well, no, I won’t fight cuz I’m too lazy, but I have an opinion anyway. 😛
“Sex reizt mich nicht” is nothing else than “Sex gibt mir nichts”. Asexuality is also not a sexual preference. How can it be a sexual preference when you don’t have sex? But you also expressed that with the text in the brackets, I guess. Semantics show insecurities about your “orientation” in the end.
I’m also not fighting with you. I’m just expressing MY opinion. You can have your opinion, I’m just defending why people will question things you say, even if they don’t really care about you not having sex. You’re calling me pretty much ignorant, because I react to a person that judges on sex without even knowing what it is like, even though that is about as ignorant as I probably am.
I’m not calling you ignorant, more like prejudiced lol.
And now we’re pretty much back where we started on your comments. You say we can’t possibly say we wouldn’t get anything out of sex without having tried it. I say we can.
It’s mainly that condescending attitude that annoys me from people. And tbh I really don’t get it. How on earth is “sex doesn’t interest me” different from “playing chess doesn’t interest me”?? The only difference is that many more people like sex than playing chess. Therefore asexuals are weirdos / faking it / have issues. Bah.
Um, not to butt in on all the arguing, but just thought I’d let you know the boxes aren’t hard to see on my home PC, so you can scrap that.
And why does it say URI rather than URL?
I’m not sure. They call it “uniform resource identifier” instead of locator. I’d never heard it before either. 😛
And we’re done arguing. 😀
‘I like pretty things and pretty people’ – I bloody luv that comment. hehe.
Oh and one of the girls ive become good mates with is from Brighton! shes looking for a job back there so will be visiting her eventually…
Wooo! 😀 We have to meet then since I ended up cancelling the Brum thing. Tell her not to steal my jobs tho! I’m looking too. 😐
yeah will do! shes looking for RE teaching jobs..somehow i cant see u applying for them.lol. oh and are all Brighton people slightly kooky? she is, but in a very good way
In case anyone is interested: URI is the general term. An URL is an URI, but an URN (Uniform Resource Name) is also an URI.
Aha. Interesting.
Shazia – um… they can be. Well, tbh most the people I know here aren’t native Brightonians. The crazy ones tend to converge here. 😛
And I’m watching CBB again now and it’s your fault. 😐 Jade is sooo horrible, fucking hell.
Thanks Tobias! The only one with any brains around here…
Fuck off you whore.