some things are better left unsaid, it's very true. The thing I find hard is, how to sort out what to say and not to say, lol. It's complicated. I have said things to my friends that I have regretted. Not that it hurted them or anything, but it wasn't any point in me telling them the stuff I told.
And beeing completly honest in a blog like this, I wouldn't dare to be that. Thats too difficult. And uhm, you never know who's really reading it. To offend someone here it's easier, I think. Im trying to be smart and all hehe, but sometimes it's even difficult to be honest to ourselfes
and sometimes we need people to tell us stuff we never dared to admit. Thats NO fun!!
Hookay, im off topic....sowwy. Intresting topic by the way, or maybe I just wanted to blablablah something

Ja interesting topic. Hm must think about this before I comment. Well I already did, but ja.

I think about this a whole lot, and I know exactly what you mean and what it feels like not daring to be completely honest, both here and in more private settings. It's not like we're lying, but rather that we avoid bringing it up. There are things I would die before telling anyone about, some of which most people most likely already know though. I have no solution or explaination, but would just like to share my experience. This is the reason why when I write I like to cover things up, wrap things in so they only make sense to myself, or those that know be best. That's my way of being honest online, cause if I were to write everything directly... well that's just a very foreign thought to me at this point in my life. It's kind of the same when I talk in real life. If someone asks me anything, I usually have to think a lot before coming up with an answer, not necesarily because I have no imagination, but rather because everything I say need to pass through this honesty-filter in my head that decides if this and that can be said or if it is too personal for me to say to the person I talk to. It's a very complex process which usually leads to the person having left about 30 minutes ago, when I have the a satisfying answer to their question. So usually I go with the not so satisfying "safe" answers that have alrady been through this filter before. So... probably not what you were talking about, but urm... ja, this concludes my very first blog-comment. Did I pass?

You did!
And I fully understand of course.

hey! where's my message?!

gone. *sigh* and was long.

Ok will try again. Was kind of off topic the first time, so will be kind of off topic this time too. But it kind of has something to do with what you're talking about too. Sort of. So I was saying... that I er..what WAS I saying?
um... when i write something personal...online or offline... I almost always write in English because it's so much easier. Not because my English is better than my Norwegian obviously, but because it creates a distance somehow. It doesn't feel so personal, it doesn't feel so much like it's coming from me. Even if I write the exact same thing in Norwegian and English, the Nowegian version will always sound much more personal. Made any sense?

And very not off topic lol : Ja there are things I don't tell anyone too.

Ja makes sense.

Makes sense mon. I once told someone it's easier to be honest in english because it's a less honest language, which confused this someone a lot of course. I have a theory that the reason english feels less honest to me is because my understanding of the language is not as "complete" as my understanding for norwegian - cause I grew up with it obviously. For instance, when I hear someone speak norwegian with gramatical errors, I cringe, but when the same happens in english, it doesn't bother me that much usually. So this distance you speak of, for me at least, I think has something to do with this. Or the fact that english is cool and norwegian is lame, and basically a very honest and personal language.

oooooohhhhh MON, I love you for finally putting my exact same thoughts I have had for the last coupple of years.
I wrote alot in enlish before as well, my private things, cuz I found it hard, and almost too scary and real to write in my motherlanguage. I have a diary where I sometimes write when Im feeling something, good or bad. It's in Norwegian. And I don't think I have been anymore "honest" and "true" to myself writing in that diary. I understand you completly mon, I do. Im not so good in english,obviously, but I do my best, but it can become a distance to me somehow. After I started as a journalist student I discovered how great the norwegian language really is (compared to my lousy english, lol) As a teenager I thought it was easier to write stuff in english, personal stuff, cuz I felt it was easier to express myself. What I didn't get, but do now appereantly, is that it was the other way around.
So discovering that I actually could write in my motherlanguage and feeling closeness with it was great.

I also must add, that I envy, sometimes I do, your english speaking people. I love THIS language alot.